The Jealousy Quiz 😅

Jealousy – it's that pesky emotion we've all experienced at some point. 😓 It might not always be pleasant, but did you know jealousy can tell you something important about yourself? It's a sign pointing to your unfulfilled desires and unexplored aspirations. But is it? 🛤️✨

Today, I've got a fun and insightful quiz to help you decode your jealousy. It can reveal if you're genuinely jealous or if it's a nudge to explore your hidden dreams and desires. There’s an exercise after that you’re going to want to save. But first, the quiz. Let's goooooo!

The Jealousy Quiz 🧐

1. How do you typically react When you see someone succeed in an area where you also want to excel?

a) I feel happy for them and inspired to improve myself.

b) I can't help but feel a bit envious, but it motivates me to work harder.

c) Jealousy immediately takes over, and I find it hard to be happy for them.

2. Your friend shares exciting news about their new project or achievement. What's your first thought?

a) I'm genuinely thrilled for them and can't wait to learn more.

b) I'm happy for them, but a part of me wishes I were in their shoes.

c) I can't hide my jealousy and struggle to show enthusiasm.

3. Imagine you're attending an event, and someone you admire is there. What's your reaction?

a) I'd love to meet and learn from them, maybe even ask for their advice.

b) I hope to connect with them, although I worry they may overshadow me.

c) I'm overwhelmed with jealousy and fear that they might outshine me.

4. A colleague receives recognition at work for a project similar to what you've worked on. Your thoughts?

a) I acknowledge their success and consider how I can improve my work.

b) I'm happy for them, but I secretly wish it were me in the spotlight.

c) Jealousy consumes me, and I struggle to hide my resentment.

5. You see someone living the lifestyle you've always dreamed of. How do you react?

a) I admire their journey and note how to achieve my dreams.

b) I feel envious but use it to motivate me toward my goals.

c) Jealousy overwhelms me, and their success makes it hard to be inspired.

Scoring:

For each "a," give yourself 1 point. For each "b," give yourself 2 points. For each "c," give yourself 3 points.

Results:

• 5-7 Points: You're not particularly jealous! You see others' successes as inspiration and motivation. Jealousy rarely clouds your perspective, which is fantastic. 🌟

• 8-11 Points: You occasionally experience moments of jealousy, but it's not a persistent feeling. You can transform these emotions into positive energy to fuel your aspirations. 🚀

• 12-15 Points: Jealousy might be a more common emotion for you. It's essential to recognize that it can be a sign of unmet desires. Use it as a catalyst for self-reflection and start exploring what you truly want. 🧭

Now, for the magical part that can change your life! (I promise, I'm never dramatic 😜!) I read Molly Galbraith's book, Strong Women Lift Each Other Up, years ago, and this stuck with me, and I want to share it with you. And if you want to order her book, which I HIGHLY recommend, get it here.

Okay, ready for this? It's gonna blow your mind. 💥🌈

Look at this filter. Yes, I just took a screenshot from the book bc I have other things to do than recreate it by hand.

If the answer is YES, do I want what they have? That question right there is HUGE! I mean really - do you want to go through all the steps she did to get there? What if she works 80 hours a week? What if she went back for her MBA? What if What would that look like for you? 🤔

And if it's still YES, ask yourself, do those actions align with my values? Stay tuned for more on values next week, but they are essentially the principles you want to live by and the things that matter most to you. What if she doesn't get to hang out with her family or friends as much as she wants? If you saw someone else's behind-the-scenes life, would you still want what they have?

And if it's still YES, then great! GO DO IT.

Use this filter to ascertain whether you genuinely desire what that person possesses. If you do, you can pivot from feeling envious and start working towards your goals. On the other hand, if you don't actually want what they have, this realization can help dilute the jealousy and provide some perspective to move on with a clear mind.

I would love your feedback on this newsletter, and PLEASE let me know if it was of help if you use this in practice and how it turned out. 💌

Love you. Gotta go. Bye. 😘

xoxo

Tamara