Getting What You Want

My daughter and I drive home, and she asks, "Can we get Chick-fil-A?" I respond with a "no" because I don't want it and don't want to stop. After all, we have food at home (OMG, I AM SO THAT MOM!).

But I couldn't just let the conversation end there. I turned it into a lesson by saying, "How else could you ask for what you want?" 

My husband and son were in our other car, so I told my daughter, "What if you took my phone and texted Daddy and said something like, wouldn't you love to have your favorite chicken sandwich for dinner tonight and not have to cook when we get home?" Knowing what she was up to, he laughed. She was a "winner winner chicken dinner!"

Asking for what you want can be done in a way that gets a yes response. We've all been there – wanting something badly but hitting a roadblock, so here's the secret Chick-fil-A sauce on how to be creative in your approach. 

🌈 Tip 1: Craft Your Ask with Clarity

Before throwing it out there, be crystal clear about what you want. Exactness communicates your needs better, making it easier for others to understand and respond positively.

🌟 Example: Instead of a vague "Can I work from home?" try "Is it possible for me to work remotely on Mondays and Fridays to enhance my productivity and work-life balance?"

💡 Why It Works: Clarity shows you've thought this through, making your request more compelling. Sometimes, I don't even put it in a question, but more like a statement, so it's even more confident sounding. Like you've made the decision, they just have to agree. (like, hey, I'm going out with the girls Friday night. Instead of asking, is it cool if I go out with the girls on Friday night? One way leaves the door open to rejection, which you don't want to hear because you want to go out with the girls!)  

🔮 Tip 2: Timing & Setting is Everything

Choose the right moment to present your request. Avoid catching someone on their cell phone at the supermarket. Opt for a time when they can give your ask the attention it deserves.

🌟 Example: Instead of cornering your boss on a busy Monday morning in between meetings, schedule a meeting to discuss your proposal.

💡 Why It Works: Timing and location ensure your ask is receptively met, increasing the chances of a positive response. Your request will be taken more seriously if they are in the right setting.  

🎭 Tip 3: Turn Rejection into Reflection

Accept the possibility of a 'no' and view it as a stepping stone, not a roadblock. If your request is declined, seek constructive feedback to understand how you can refine your approach in the future.

🌟 Example: "I appreciate your honesty. Could you share any insights on how I can improve my proposal for next time?"

💡 Why It Works: Turning rejection into a learning opportunity positions you for future success. And it shows that you really want what you've asked for. If you just give up the first time, they won't think you're determined. But if you are persistent and ask follow-up questions, they could still be persuaded! 

🎯 Tip 4: Showcase Mutual Benefits

Highlight how your ask benefits you AND the person you're asking. This shifts the focus from being self-serving to presenting a win-win scenario.

🌟 Example: "Implementing this suggestion could streamline our workflow, saving time and money."

💡 Why It Works: Mutual benefits create a compelling case for why your request deserves consideration. Share why it's a win for everyone involved (not just yourself). 

🚀 Tip 5: Express Gratitude Regardless of the Outcome

Regardless of the response, express gratitude. It shows maturity and professionalism and leaves the door open for future collaborations.

🌟 Example: "Thank you for considering my request. I truly appreciate your time and attention."

💡 Why It Works: Gratitude builds relationships and leaves a lasting impression. Play for the long game, and they will welcome you the next time you come with a request. 

Today's Challenge: Ask Boldly & Embrace the Outcome

Are you ready to level up your asking game? Share your asking challenges or success stories with me. Together, we're mastering the steps of getting what we want! 

Love you. Gotta go. Bye. ✌🏻

xoxo

Tamara