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Bah humbug. Am I the only one not feeling the holiday spirit today? 🤦♀️
I'm failing at everything. I missed sending out my Tuesday newsletter. I can't write a post to save my life. I have a cold. I forgot to do Duolingo, and I'm on the road with my kids and so distracted with everything.
I can't do it. All my work is slipping away, and the only solution is to work even harder. But is it? Or am I just going through a phase?
When you're overwhelmed, take it into perspective. You’re not a failure because you missed one day (or several who’s counting). It's not your life. It doesn't define who you are or who you'll be. Things slide, and schedules change. It's how you respond to that change that defines you.
I'm not a sugarcoating-the-problem kind of girl. Here's how to reset yourself:
Stop Freaking and Be Real: Step back and take a goshdarn breath. It's not about working harder; it's about working smarter. Reframe your approach - is there a different angle or strategy you still need to consider? Is there anything you can delegate? Is there anything you can automate? Anything you can skip for now? Since your routine changed, your routine has to change.
Prioritize & Let Go: Accept that some things might not get done. Prioritize what truly matters and let go of the rest. Your sanity is non-negotiable. Pick what matters at the moment. Does my newsletter matter more than getting my kids to camp? Nope. Do what you need first, then do whatever you can when you have time.
Permission to Suck: Streaks are going to be broken. That's why we have them - to encourage us, but they aren't realistic. It's a miracle that I've pulled off a Tuesday newsletter without missing a week this long. I write from the heart on the day it goes out. Should I automate and plan better? Sure. Did I? Nope. This is good learning for next time, but I won't beat myself up about it. Did anyone get hurt? Did anyone even notice but myself? Nope. So, big or little deal? Little. Go on, then.
GRACE GIRLFRIEND: Be gentle with yourself. Self-criticism doesn't solve problems, and it's all your head hears. Extend yourself the compassion you would offer a friend in this situation. The first thing I'd tell you is to cut yourself some freaking slack. Don't throw yourself entirely into a hot mess - just be cautious with yourself. You bust your butt all the time, and right now just isn't that time. Don't worry. You'll be back at it again very soon.
Let's face it: you've got to do the best with what you have, even if it's chaos and dropped balls. So here's to finding balance in the hot mess and remembering that life's not about doing it all but how you get through it. Gift yourself some grace this holiday season!
Love you. Gotta go. Bye. ✌🏻
xoxo
Tamara